Here is your solution.
1. First and foremost its actually rude to say ‘No’ to your bosses advances.
It would most certainly put you both at logger heads. It’s wiser to say ‘No’ through definite and precise action. Show lack of interest. With time such advances would fizzle away.
2. Leave them alone if they are married.
Chances are very low on this one. Very little or absolutely nothing but hurt would be the result. Let your boss know that you may not be righteous but you are certainly not one that flirts with married people.
3. Avoid discreet flirting.
If you realize that you are doing things that draw their attention. E.g wearing sexy clothes for the ladies or stealing romantic glances, you should quit. Avoid anything that would pass the wrong signal across.”Dress the way you want to be addressed”. Very key!
4. Consciously work on your mind.
You have to agree within yourself that no matter what you stand to gain or lose by indulging in this romance, you are not game. Consciously refuse all the advances in your heart.
5. Stop anticipating responses.
You know certainly that you are not game for an office romance, stop anticipating responses or further pressure. Be prepared to waive aside whatever arises.
6. Confide in a friend who shares similar values with you.
Get loads of inspiration from someone you trust. It would go a long way to strengthen your resilience.”Talk to your love doctor I care…”
7. Make yourself open and free with every other colleague but consciously avoid intimacy with anyone.
If you act withdrawn from every body else, it would suggest that you have a secret interest in your bosses advances and that would make the situation more difficult. Be free and open with every other colleague. Let your boss see that at work, there are no strings whatsoever attached.
8. Focus on Company Laws.
Most organization’s have strict modus operandi. Make sure you emphasize the fact that you don’t mix business with pleasure.
9. If against all odds your boss insists, ask for marriage.
That would surely turn away anybody who is desperate for a fling. Ask for a wedding and a permanent relationship sternly. If your boss is ready to see your parents then you may be lucky to have found the right one there in your office. And don’t give into intimacy until you are sure he/she is serious with you. Very important!
10. Find out if you are the only one.
If your boss is sneaky or cunning, you are most likely gonna find out if you try to. With a cordial relationship with your colleagues you would be able to sniff out some information from them about past or present advances. Knowing his/her relationship status would make your decisions easier.
11. If you surely don’t wanna have a relationship with your boss, let them know you are in a relationship already.
Flaunt your partner if you have one. Let them know you have someone you must be true to.
12. Be ready for the worst.
Don’t let them see desperation in you even if you really are. Exude confidence,be polite! But be ready to put your job on the line. You must realize that some people are desperate. If they can’t have you, they are ready to make you miserable.
You should be ready to lay down any job that makes you susceptible to any form of abuse. You must believe you deserve better than giving into something you detest. “It may end up being a stepping stone to success!”.
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