This is One big question am frequently asked when am invited to speak in conferences/meetings with single people, “ways to know that someone really loves you?
What are the signs of true love?”
1. THE TWO OR ONE SIDED TEST:
Love is not one-sided–it can only happen in the context of two people in relationship. If you are the only one calling, reaching out and doing all the loving, something is wrong. If it’s not mutual, there is trouble. If it’s one sided, there is no love.
2. BE SURE THIS IS NOT INFATUATION:
Infatuation looks like love only that it is fake love. Have you seen counterfeit money? There is also counterfeit love called infatuation. Unfortunately, 90% of what most single people call love is infatuation. Be sure that this attraction is not infatuation.
3. DO THEY LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU ARE?
If this person knows about your flaws and still expresses their devotion to you, there’s a good chance that it might be love. If they are demanding that you change this or that or there can’t be a relationship, it means they do not love you as you are.”love is patient”
“Love will accept you as you are but won’t leave you as you are. Love has the power to change you even without trying” (I know this is deep)
4. THE LOVE AND RESPECT TEST:
The relationship between a man and a woman as the exchange of love and respect. That is, why a woman needs to feel the LOVE of her man, and also the man needs to feel the RESPECT of his woman. It will be hard for a man to love a woman who doesn’t RESPECT him and it will also be hard for a woman to respect a man who doesn’t LOVE her and that brings us back to the necessity of mutuality within a loving relationship. Only then will you be able to find out if this person truly loves you.
I remain your Relationship life coach
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