Quite a number of times, people, both single and married, young and old, have often asked; “what’s the key to successful relationships?
Your love doctor has in turn answered same by revealing below, the simple things you need to know to deepen your partnership with your spouse and make your relationship successful!
Here are they keys:
1. QUALITY TIME.
Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night to communicate , and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.”Women interpret love as time!”.
2. YOU WILL BOTH NEED SECURITY AND COMFORT.
A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides. “it gives and exchanges, not selfish!”.
3. KEEP YOUR DEPENDENCE AND INDEPENDENCE IN BALANCE.
Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don’t cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.”Dont suffocate your partner”.
4. ENCOURAGE HIM TO LISTEN TO YOU.
By showing appreciation when he does, and showing interest when he talks to you.
Be aware that most men aren’t mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.”Seriously…!”.
5. MAKE HIM APPRECIATE YOU.
Don’t wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.”Its very important!”.
6. LEARN TO DO THE ONE THING.
Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship, like giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.”Its magical!”.
7. HIDDEN RESENTMENT.
Hidden resentments poison a relationship; If something bothers you, say it!
Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.
8. LEARN THAT PUNISHING YOUR PARTNER WONT WORK.
Punishing your partner won’t work! It may make you feel better to give him a hard time, but it will actually make him dig his heels in more.
A better tactic is to reward the things you like and ignore what you don’t like.
Money is the number one cause of couple conflict.
For a relationship to work, you need to address your finances and work out a budget. “It takes finance to run romance!”.
10. DOMESTIC WORK.
If the domestic work is not divided fairly between you, it will cause friction in your relationship.
Make a list of the domestic tasks, talk it through with your partner and mobilize the whole family, including your partner, to share the work.
If you have children, involve your partner as much as possible with the child care; even if you feel he’s not as good at it, as you are. It’s important to present a united front to your children.
12. SORT YOUR SEX LIFE.
Sex in marriage flow over the years, but if sex starts going downhill, don’t just accept it.
As soon as you notice a slide, question why and then work at bringing the passion back.
Don’t assume you won’t be tempted to have an affair as almost everyone is.
You need to learn to resist. If you do stray, don’t feel it spells the end of your relationship.
Most couples recover, particularly from a one-night-stand, and often find that root cause of the affair helps them to get even closer.
Hence, you need to learn to resist. But don’t think that an affair is the end of everything. “Very key!”.
Remember that boredom typically covers up anger. If you feel bored with him, ask yourself what you’re angry about.
15. OVERWHELMED EMOTIONS.
Be aware that men generally feel overwhelmed by emotion more than women do. If he’s angry or tearful, half an hour’s ‘unflooding’ time to himself, will help get his balance back and make him more able to interact positively with you.
16. INTELLIGENT ARGUMENT.
Learn how to argue well. The trick is, never say anything that you wouldn’t want to hear said to you. For extra help talk your love doctor.
Research suggests you need five positive experiences to erase the memory of one negative experience.
So, give five kind words for each careless comment. Give five hugs for each cold shoulder.
Learn how to negotiate. Each of you states what you want, then both of you work together to find a way forward.
Accept the things that won’t change. Some characteristics about your partner are there for life, and face that! “Ohhh yea…”
20. LEARN TO FORGIVE.
If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, then give him and yourself a break and start again, with someone else.”To err is human to forgive is divine!”.
21. KOW WHEN TO LEAVE.
If your life aims are incompatible, there are heavy drugs or violence around, or if there is consistently more pain than pleasure, then walk away before the relationship destroys you.
“A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage!”.
Finally, BONUS POINT for LRB readers…
22. Don’t think that going to counseling equals failure of a relationship.
It can turn a bad relationship around. It can turn an average relationship into a brilliant one.
Hmmm..sure these inputs when observed and practicalized in your relationship, would yield incredible outputs..Happy reading…Have a blessed week…
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