It’s a horrible feeling when you recognize that things aren’t working in your marriage, you typically seek advice from friends, family and marriage counselors.
After all, what better way to save a failing union than to call on the experts?
You look at your partner and wonder if this is even the same person you married…
Before we dive into providing solutions let’s look into some of the reasons for broken marriages.
1. Bad Advice
2. Lack of comunication
3. The need to explore and try new things
4. Lack of Communication
6. Lack of trust
Now that we have listed some of the reasons for failed marriages, here a few tips on how to savea broken marriage
“Listening is an important skill, both for a counselor and a spouse. But a broken marriage needs leadership. After listening, someone has to have the courage and experience to say, “Ok, here’s what I want you to do,” Fertel says. “Marriages change not because of what people say or how well they listen; marriages change because of what people do.”
* Talk to eachother
Be patient with one another, even in the areas that seem to present the biggest problems. Talk TO one another rather than AT one another. This is part of listening for when you increase the communication, it helps you to connect again. Be patient and willing to work through the problems and know that it will lead you to better times overall.
* Reconnect (remind yourself why you got married)
Get back to basics and put yourself into the mindset of when you were first together and
first in love. Think about what made you both fall in love with one another and maybe even write it down. Consider what you adored about this person and what made you want to be with them. Though you may have lost sight of this, thinking back to when times were good and you had just fallen in love can really help to lift your spirits. Write down their best traits and you may even find that they are still there, but you’ve had a hard time getting in touch with them lately.
* Find a way back
Think of what it would take to connect with each other once again. Plan a trip for just the two of you. Commit to spending even a few minutes together every night chatting. Go out on dates and make each other a priority. When you can find your way back to one another again and truly reconnect, then it may help to fix what has gone wrong to this point.
As there are no picture perfet couples, so are there no perfect solution to a failing marriage, it is the will to make it work that makes all the difference , I hope this article has helped you?
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